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5 tips for finding the right gifts to help kids dream big this holiday

Contest closed. This one’s a giveaway too! Special thanks to Mastermind Toys for sponsoring this post.

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I am so stoked for the holidays this year that I’m surprising myself. The truth is I’d been lacking the seasonal spirit for the past couple years and I was worried it was gone for good, buried under deadlines and stress and all the obligations. Maybe it’s because I will actually be getting a proper work break this year. Maybe it’s because I’m looking forward to spending more time with family. Maybe it’s just that this year has felt so grey for the most part that I’m good and ready to put on some bloody cheer.

Whatever the reason, it’s the truth. I’m going to dress up my house (well, first I’m going to clean it!) and listen to carols and drink eggnog and I might even bake a batch of cookies. Who knows! And I want to get gifts for my kids that will light up their faces. I want to indulge their childhood fantasies and simply bask in the warmth and generosity of the season.

Let’s all make it the best holidays ever! Here are some tips for helping you find the perfect gifts for the kids in your life. (You are on your own with the cookies, though.)

1. Feed their imaginations.

The kids are so much smarter than us! They learn from playing, creating and imagining just as much as they do from sitting in a classroom. So I’m always on the lookout for toys, games and books that will spark creativity and facilitate learning.

2. Check out the Mastermind Toys Holiday Gift Guide

The buyers at Mastermind Toys have scoured the globe to find the very best toys, games and books to make kids’ dreams come true. You can find the holiday guide in and online. I love that it is laid out based on kids’ ages and interests, making it super-simple to find the perfect gift.

Look what I found in this year’s gift guide to feed the imagination of my puzzle-loving tween and my kindie kid!

Colour Cube Sudoku

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3. Look for something that will help you connect as a family.

It’s always nice when the kids are excited to do something fun with you. But we’re busy! So I like to make sure I find something that we will all want to do together to make sure we find the time to hang out as a family. Depending on what you most enjoy doing, board games, outdoor activities, books and craft projects are all great options.

4. Shop online using Mastermind Toys’ new Gift Finder tool

It’s easier than ever to find the perfect gift at MastermindToys.com. Look for the Gift Finder link at the top of their home page and then easily filter your search by age, category, budget and more. For a  small fee, you can even choose wrapping paper and write a personalized tag for your gifts. This is perfect for shopping for far flung family.

How perfect is this for family game night? I just plugged in what I was looking for in the Gift Finder tool.

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5. Drop by your local Mastermind Toys store and pick the brain of a Toy Expert

My personal favourite! I love going into the stores, getting wonderful advice on gifts, and then having them wrapped for me free of charge. It’s my holiday and birthday go-to. Visit any of their 59 locations across Canada and chat with the friendly, knowledgeable staff. They’ll be able to offer great suggestions for kids of any age, stage and interest. Bonus: free festive gift-wrapping in every store, and that signature curly bow. Find a store near you: https://www.mastermindtoys.com/Stores

And…DRUM ROLL…here’s how you can win one $150 gift card from Mastermind just in time for the holidays. Fill in the Gleam entry box below and then leave a comment with a link to a product you found on mastermindtoys.com using one of the above tips. Good luck!

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Giveaway ends Thursday, November 23 at 11:59pm EST. No purchase necessary. One entry per family/household. Giveaway is open to Canadian residents only, excluding Quebec. Thanks again to Mastermind Toys for sponsoring this post.

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Level Up: The summer STEM camp my kids can’t wait for

This post is part of the YummyMummyClub.ca and #LevelUpKids sponsored program. I received compensation as a thank you for my participation. This post reflects my personal opinion about the information provided by the sponsors.

Giveaway CLOSED. This post is also a giveaway! Enter to win a week of Level Up day camp at a location near you.

What’s the most important criteria for choosing where to send your kids to summer day camp?  

Aside from factors like cost and convenience, I especially want my kids to try something they don’t get to do during the school year. Summer is the only time of year when kids get the chance to become completely immersed in a new learning experience.

So this year I was over-the-moon excited to get the chance to send my kids to Level Up, a computer science and tech camp that offers programs across the country. Each week has a different focus like Minecraft-based problem solving, introduction to coding, video game design, creating an engaging YouTube channel, robotics and more. This kind of hands-on computer and tech teaching is definitely missing from their everyday activities.

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Alright, so let’s be real. These camps are for 8 to 15-year-old kids which means they’re a fit for two of children. My 11-year-old son, to be completely honest, does not an extra push to become more engaged in science, technology and computers. He is SO PUMPED about these camps, you can’t even imagine. This will be a great chance for him to take an already established interest to the next level. There’s no doubt he will have a fantastic time and learn a ton.

My eight-year-old daughter, on the other hand . . . She gets good grades at school, plays all kinds of sports and has many friends. So she’s otherwise full of confidence, but consistently approaches math and science with a defeatist attitude. “I’m bad of math,” is a constant refrain whenever she needs help with her homework. Learning computer and tech skills like coding and programming is something that she would never have the courage to undertake on her own.

Level Up STEM for girls

But she should! Because not only are these important skills in their own right, they also transcend beyond the computer. So I was so incredibly excited to see that Level Up also offers a week called Coding Girls (July 31 – Aug 4 at the Humber College camp in Toronto) to support leadership, entrepreneurship and empowerment for girls. Of course, girls can and do attend any session, but all-girls programs in areas that tend to be dominated by boys (like sports and tech) can be such a confidence-building experience for our daughters.

Ultimately, both boys and girls will learn:

  • Problem solving
  • Abstract reasoning
  • Strategizing and critical thinking
  • Modelling with math
  • Attention to details and precision
  • To look for patterns
  • And so much more

Then again, the most important part of summer is that our kids have fun. And this camp definitely delivers that.

Using a banana to control Geometry Dash! How cool is that?

And GUESS WHAT? I’m so beyond excited to be able to give one of my readers a FREE week of summer day camp for one child. Fill in the widget below and I’ll draw a winner on June 19th.

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Self-employed parents: Will you be ready to retire? I won’t.

Big thanks to TD for sponsoring this post and giving me the kick in the butt to start thinking about retirement that I needed. 

I’m going to be completely honest. As a work-from-home, self-employed mother, planning for my retirement is the last thing on my mind. I’m not ready to retire at all! I worry about making mortgage payments, paying the kids’ camp fees, planning family vacations and managing my taxes instead. I know I’m not alone.

But retirement should be on our minds. Because we could very well be the most ill-prepared generation ever.

Okay, so maybe not ever.

But I do see a lot of families that look like mine. We’re taking work-life balance into our own hands by opting out of a traditional dual full-time income situation. You know what I mean. We’ve quit our regular jobs in order to start our own businesses or to take on freelance or contract gigs and be able to work from home. This gives us the freedom to be there for school pickups, sick days and school holidays. We make our own schedules and figure out how to juggle work and family responsibilities in a way that makes the most sense for us.

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I had been working a lower-rung job for a big telecommunications company when I had my first baby. I took my one-year maternity leave, mulled over the prospect of a long commute and longer work day, crunched some numbers, and decided to stay home for a few more months. My husband’s salary and benefits could (just barely) support us in the short term. When my son was about 18-months old I naively wheeled his stroller into a posh local daycare and wondered about their part-time rates. I thought I’d like to start working again, maybe three days a week. They laughed me out of the building. Part-time? They didn’t even offer that. Besides, there was a two-year wait list for full-time spots and the rates would cost me nearly all of my salary.

So I wound up picking up a couple evening and weekend shifts at a busy downtown restaurant instead, and found a daycare spot for my son just in time for me to clock enough employment hours working for a temp agency to take my second maternity leave. There I was, at home with a toddler and a newborn, my meager mat leave payments a ticking time bomb pressuring me to figure out some way to make it all work. Restaurant shift work and temp gigs were increasingly more difficult to arrange and, what’s more, they weren’t getting me anywhere.

So I started writing. I mean, I’ve always been writing, for as long as I can remember. But I had published a few freelance articles before I had kids, so I thought if I could make just enough money to make ends meet, I could have the best of both worlds. I started blogging, pitching story ideas, networking, and found just enough income to make it work. We bought a house and had a third baby. I worked harder, earned more, and had somehow — against all odds — carved out a career path for myself.

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My early work-from-home days.

Not once did I seriously consider opening up an RRSP. I didn’t even consider how to be ready to retire at all.

This is how we do it. We hit pause on retirement savings while we’re coping with diapers and daycare. (We actually use our retirement savings as down payments on a house, don’t we?) But then daycare fees turn into hockey tournaments and summer camps and university applications, and we’ve forgotten to plan for our own futures at all.

It’s now been over a decade since I’ve had a job that paid into any sort of retirement plan, not even the Canadian Pension Plan. My husband does have a job with all the good perks: dental benefits, a drug plan, and a pension. But is that enough? What if something happens? What about me? 

The good news is that it’s not too late. Even if you’re ten or 15 years older than me, it’s still not too late. With the right strategies, you can prepare for the retirement you want even just 15 years before retiring. Of course, what we want to do with our retirement is just as different as what we did before we got there. Do you dream of escaping from the city and settling down somewhere quiet? I know I want to be able to travel as much as possible.

The first step for me (and you, too, I hope) is to sit down with a TD advisor for a free TD goals-based assessment. They will listen to what is most important to me, and look beyond the numbers to figure out how to make that happen. You can even get started by going over your retirement goals with a TD advisor over the phone.

And when I really stop to think about it, being prepared for my retirement will be a gift for my children down the road anyway.

Disclosure: This post is part of the YummyMummyClub.ca and TD #RetireReady sponsored program. I received compensation as a thank you for my participation. This post reflects my personal opinion about the information provided by the sponsors.

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How my kids have lost their stuff. Let us count the ways.

Big thanks to MyLabelFactory.com for sponsoring this post because, omg, have my kids ever left their stuff all over this town. I need your help!

Because it was too hot.

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It’s hot. Take your sweater off. Then promptly forget that it ever existed. There you go.

It was too cold.

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Wow, your hand is cold. Where is your mitt? Never mind, it’s freezing. Head directly inside.

It was wet.

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Remember this morning when it was raining? And you wore your boots to school? No idea what happened to them, huh? Fair enough.

All the hats look the same.

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Oh, you didn’t know which hat was yours. So you didn’t bring home any hat at all. That makes sense.

They don’t know where they left their stuff.

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True. I guess your lunch box could be anywhere. Why would it be in your bag or, I don’t know, wherever you eat lunch?!

They do know where they left their stuff, but they still didn’t bother to bring it home.

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“Where’s your school bag?” “Oh yeeeeeeah. I left it at the library.” No biggie. I’ll just take the morning off work to pick it up for you tomorrow. You know, if it’s still there.

They went to school, or to the park, or to grandma’s house.

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Oh, well, if you went somewhere. Then, yeah. That’s completely legit then.

They took a bus.

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For sure. Take off your hat, coat, mitts, and scarf. Then open up your backpack and take everything out. Make yourself comfortable. It is a ten minute drive, after all.

You stayed at a hotel.

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Okay, so you should have known that wouldn’t end well.

AT FREAKING SUMMER CAMP.

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All those towels are coming home for sure. Nothing to worry about here. Bahahahhaha.

So what’s the answer?

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Label that stuff, my friend.

Labeling might not stop your kids from losing stuff in the first place (though I swear it helps), but it does mean you can get a lot of that stuff back. The best children’s labels have these two key features: 1. They stay stuck. 2. Your kids want to have them on their stuff.

MyLabelFactory.com scores top marks on both counts. All their custom waterproof labels are laundry, dishwasher, and microwave safe. PLUS their kids’ clothing labels are officially licensed for Disney, Sesame Street, Marvel and Star Wars characters which means that my kids love, love, love them. The four-year-old is so adorably proud of her Finding Dory labels, the seven-year-old is all about Black Widow on her stuff and the ten-year-old is down with Yoda. We also got some mini R2D2 labels with only our last name for all the stuff we share.

Good news for you, bargain hunters! I’ve got a special promo code for 20% off all orders until the end of July: PLAYGROUNDCONFIDENTIAL20

MyLabelFactory.com offers a Starter Combo, Camp Combo, and School Combo that will cover all your labeling needs and then some.

Happy camping!

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Ooka Island was the difference for us

Thanks to Ooka Island for being the perfect sponsor for this blog. (Psst. This post is a GIVEAWAY, too!)

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“It’s crazy, Mom! Every time I look at a word, I just automatically read it.”

Oh, how my heart soared when she said that.

For many kids, that kind of instant word recognition clicks into place on it’s own sometime around age five or six. They look at signs, book titles, or magazine headlines, and basic words start to pop out at them. It almost feels like they’ve simply figured out how to read all on their own.

But for my middle child, this is something that we have been working on for a very long time. Reading has been a puzzle for her. By time she began grade two this year, it was one she could often solve through sheer determination and perseverance;  slowly sounding out syllables and using pictures and the context of a story to help her decode the letters. She was improving, but it was painstaking hard work and I was afraid she was being put off reading altogether.

So I jumped at the opportunity to work on a campaign with the Canadian reading app, Ooka Island. Both my seven-year-old and four-year-old daughters started to play on separate accounts that automatically adjust to their learning levels. Right away, as I wrote about in this post, I was thrilled by how engaged in reading both girls were when they opened Ooka Island. You can also read all about the decades of research and experience that have gone into developing the educational platform for Ooka Island here. It is not just another video game dressed up as a learning tool to sell more copies. Ooka Island is the real deal.

After three months of engaging with the app a couple times a week, both my daughters have grown into stronger readers. My four-year-old is able to pick out sight words on a page and pair basic sounds with their letters. She is also starting French Immersion this year, so it’s amazing to see how she is able to process the English and French letters and sounds fairly seamlessly. She also cannot get enough of Ooka Island and I look forward to seeing much she learns at the end of a year.

My seven-year-old has truly had a breakthrough, though. I can feel it. Words are leaping out at her. She can read simple sentences with ease, and I’ve even caught her reading simple books all on her own for pleasure! We haven’t been playing Ooka Island in a vacuum, of course. She has been attending school and reading with me and her dad at the same time. We take reading seriously in this home, and we have been working very hard on reading for a very long time. But I absolutely credit Ooka Island with making learning fun for her and effectively building a stronger foundation for her literacy. I think it has given her exactly the push she needed.

At seven, she is starting to be less excited by the Ooka Island program than her little sister, but she still loves the stories and books she has unlocked. I was especially excited to learn you can order paper editions of the Ooka Island stories, and my daughter loves that she can sit down and read those all on her own.

This is my final blog post about our experience with Ooka Island, but it will definitely remain part of our life.

If you have emerging readers on your shopping list this year, an Ooka Island gift subscription will truly be the gift that keeps on giving.

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And as my gift to you, I have TWO one-year gift subscriptions to give away to readers. This is seriously an amazing gift for children ages four to seven who are still developing their reading confidence. Simply leave a comment telling me who you want to give your Ooka subscription to.

I will draw the two winners at midnight on Wednesday, December 16.

 

This is the last post in a three-part series sponsored by Ooka Island. I wrote about why reading is so important the first post, and what sets Ooka Island apart in the second.

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The made-in-Canada educational reading app that was 25 years in the making

I’m happy to be writing this post as part of sponsored series by the wonderful educational game, Ooka Island.

I’m the last person who would put any faith in a glorified video game to teach my kids to read. I allow them to play games in moderation, and if those games purport to teach the alphabet instead of, say, blowing up villagers, then all the better. But I would never actually expect my children to learn anything of substance, let alone something as fundamental as reading, from an app or a game.

Not until now.

As I wrote a couple weeks ago, I am thrilled to have been given the opportunity to use Ooka Island (as a compliment to reading actual paper books, of course) to help my two girls develop strong reading skills. It’s the real deal: a Canadian company based in P.E.I that is built on 25 years of research, experience and passion of it’s founder Dr. Kay MacPhee.

I will update the progress my girls have made (and there has already been lots) in another few weeks, but right now I want to share Ooka Island’s remarkable background story.

Made-in-Canada education app, Ooka Island

Kay MacPhee was a mom and school teacher in the 1960s when she set out on a mission to help her son who was profoundly deaf. She found the help she needed to teach her son to both speak and read fluently and began her life’s work helping others with hearing impairments to learn to read.

Amazingly, the techniques she used to help children with hearing problems also helped other kids and adults. Kay continued to work within the school system, researching and developing her own method for teaching literacy.

This led to the launch of SpellRead in 1994, a program designed to help older children and adults who struggle with reading. SpellRead was widely acclaimed, and ranked first by the largest clinical reading trial in the US, Power4Kids.

Up to this point, Kay had been focused on helping people who were having difficulty learning to read. But wouldn’t it be great to design a program that got young children off on the right foot from the start so they could become confident readers right from the beginning?

Enter Ooka Island. Together with children’s author Jim Barber, Kay designed a delightfully engaging online world that uses the same proven strategies she used in SpellRead to teach children between the ages of four to seven how to read.

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I asked Kay how all these pieces fit together.

You began studying how to teach children to read by teaching kids with hearing problems. How did that help you identify the problems that even hearing children who struggle with reading have?

Amazing, only my son has asked me that question.

To teach the hearing impaired to speak, you have to teach the sounds of the language in-depth. You would use visual, tactile and auditory elements so they would learn the sound and its print (eg. /oo/ and ‘oo’) at the same time.

You would be teaching language through experience along with the print. Hearing Impaired children usually didn’t have problems in learning to read – their biggest difficulty was learning language, reading just happened as it was the easiest route to learning and they had the in-depth knowledge of sounds and their printed equivalent.

My son started in the regular classroom when he was in grade 4 and he was amazed at the children who couldn’t read well. He couldn’t believe how one boy in particular had a reading problem as he was the best speaker in the class, but when it came to reading, he read word by word, and had no fluency.

How does your research and success with the SpellRead program (which I believe is designed for older children and adults who struggle with reading) inform the Ooka Island lessons?

Whether it is intervention or learning to read for the first time, all children have to have the same process – you just approach it a little differently. To be a good reader (in English), you must know and be able to manipulate the 44 sounds of the language automatically. To read fluently, stories must contain text that is natural to the child’s experience. Both SpellRead and Ooka had to address these concepts and their activities are age appropriate for each group

What separates Ooka Island from other educational programs and games that claim to help early readers?

In Ooka Island, the 44 sounds of the English language are taught explicitly so that a child can learn not only to identify each sound but be able to do so automatically (within milliseconds), and use these sounds automatically in reading tasks such as blending, reading, and spelling.

At the same time, reading must be introduced early on in the learn-to-read process too. There are 85 books built into Ooka Island and they purposefully use a child’s natural language. They are written in a conversational style so that children realize that the print is the same as the oral language they would use in a similar situation. The text becomes ‘alive’ which helps make the transition from oral language to print so that they are able to read fluently.

Do you have a personal story or anecdote that speaks to your motivation for helping children become confident readers?

It was never a plan, I was a teacher of the hearing-impaired and was fortunate to meet and be taught by the experts in that field.

Then a doctor, an ENT specialist, started to send kids to me that were not hearing impaired, but had reading problems. His thinking was if I could teach hearing impaired to speak and read then I could teach these children to read. I was puzzled as I couldn’t understand how these children who had such high language had difficulty reading. But even though I had no answers people kept coming, young children, adults, etc.

I even said to my colleague, I have no idea why these people are coming to me for help. Her answer (and I think it is the answer to your question) was, “You are their last hope.” I do believe it was from that moment on I started looking for the answer and as I tried to help some of these children/adults, I began to learn what the underlying problems were and began looking in the right direction for the answers.

What happens if a child comes to Ooka Island later and they are still struggling with reading after they finish grade 2? Do kids age out of Ooka?

The 24-level game and 85 eBooks were designed for children JK – Grade 2, so they may not be as compelling for older children as they are for younger ages, even though we’ve seen some exceptions. But whether a child is five-years-old or 15 (or even an adult), they have to learn the same sounds and the same activities such as listening for specific phonemes, blending, and so on.

Do they lose interest?

In many learning situations, whether child or adult, we sometimes don’t want to continue pushing ourselves – this is either when we remind ourselves of the end goal or a parent/teacher encourages us to keep moving towards the end goal.

Or if they still aren’t reading well by the end of grade two, say, does that indicate that they need further intervention?

If children are still struggling by the end of grade 2, it could be more reading is needed (share-reading in which a parent or caregiver takes turns reading pages) at their reading level. It also could be that they have not learned to manipulate the sounds automatically and more training would be required in that area.

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Dr. Kay MacPhee’s passion for helping people of all ages develop a love of reading is clear, and it’s that passion coupled with decades of research and experience that has sold me on making Ooka Island part of our early reading experience.

This is the second post in a three-part series sponsored by Ooka Island. I shared my belief that strong reading skills are the most important thing for a child to develop in the first post. Follow along to see what a difference Ooka Island makes for my little readers.

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Sorrynotsorry, but reading is still the number one most important thing

I’m happy to be writing this post as part of sponsored series by the wonderful educational game, Ooka Island.

Raising a reader

The only thing that could make me happier than seeing my son reading anywhere and everywhere is if my daughters would join him.

“Oh, he’s such a bright kid. He’ll pick it up in no time.”

“They all learn at their own pace. I’m sure there’s nothing to worry about.”

“My son’s just such an early reader, but I wish he could draw like your guy!”

These are all things I used to say to other parents when I was a smug know-it-all. Because my first kid essentially taught himself to read at age four and was flying through chapter books by age six. It didn’t mean he was smarter than other kids, I’d say. They mostly all catch up in the end (don’t they?).

But make no mistake about it. I was pleased. Oh, was I ever pleased.

Except now I’m on the receiving end of that same smug reassurance. “Oh, she’s so smart.” “It’s the French Immersion. None of them are strong readers.” “Don’t you know they don’t even start teaching kids to read until they’re seven in Sweden?”

Relax, they tell me. She’ll get there.

Of course, I can’t relax; not when my gut tells me something is wrong. (And it was, actually. My second born was recently diagnosed with an eye muscle imbalance which makes focusing on text more challenging for her.)

There are lots of reasons kids might have trouble learning to read, from vision problems to learning disabilities to simply needing more time to figure it out. But none of that changes the fact that reading is the number one most important thing. I love that we live in a time where there are resources and technologies available to help students who struggle with reading keep up with their learning. Those are wonderful and valuable tools, but they do not replace reading.

Being able to read easily opens up new worlds of learning through books and articles. It opens up new worlds of the imagination through novels and stories. Reading is the foundation for good writing and communication skills. Reading is not just about getting good grades and a landing a successful job (though it will help with both of those things too). A love of reading will enrich your entire life. I don’t mess around when it comes to reading.

So now, as my daughter starts grade two, I am watching carefully and pushing even more carefully (because this kid does not respond well to pressure) to make sure we have this reading thing in the bag by the end of the year. If we’re still not up to speed by then, that’s when I will start looking into tutors and programs to give us extra support.

But hopefully I won’t have to shell out the big dollars for private tutors because we are trying an amazing educational game that has just launched in the App Store called Ooka Island. I am honestly so excited about this program.

Ooka Island has been carefully developed with 25 years of research and uses methods that are proven to help kids become confident readers. These guys know what they are doing. It adapts to your own child’s progress and adjusts the program to match their skill levels. Weekly progress reports in your inbox keep parents in the loop without having to hover over their shoulders. (Because dinner’s not going to cook itself, right?) But it’s also fun and the kids can’t get enough of it.

Ooka Island is for kids between four and seven years old, so I’m actually using it with both my girls right now. It’s kind of amazing how after only a couple weeks the program has already jumped my seven-year-old up to where she needs to be while my four-year-old works away at her own pace. We’ve only just begun, but I’ve already seen a big jump in my seven-year-old’s confidence with reading when we sit down with a book together.

Both my girls can’t get enough of the game. The Ooka Island team recommends 30 minutes of play, three times a week, for optimal learning which sounds about right to me. But it’s so fun that the program still sells like a game. I use it as a reward for finishing homework or tidying up and then feel even better because I know they are learning. Bwahahaha.

Subscriptions to Ooka Island are only $11.99 a month or $99 a year and you get to try the first level for free. That sounds totally worth it to me compared to the cost of a private tutor or, worse, the cost of not becoming a confident reader at all.

This is the first post in a three-part series sponsored by Ooka Island. Follow along to see what a difference it makes for my little readers.

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A simple eye check-up caught a problem I would never have found and put my daughter back on the learning track

Big thanks to the Doctor’s of Optometry for sponsoring this post.

A simple eye check up makes a difference

 

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I almost missed it altogether.

It was one of those weeks — you know how it goes. I was bleary-eyed one morning last fall, pulling out yesterday’s lunches from backpacks in order to make room for today’s. As I reached in and pulled out ever more paperwork to add to the teetering pile I needed to fill out, eventually, a date caught my eye.

There was going to be a routine vision and hearing screening at the school and the forms were due back that very day. I quickly filled out the forms and then I promptly forgot all about it.

My kids could see and hear just fine, I was convinced. I mean, I would KNOW if there was a problem with their eyesight … wouldn’t I? Never mind that my son’s best friend just got glasses after a check-up with the Doctor of Optometry and his parents didn’t suspect a thing. I was sure that I would know. So, I was very surprised when my six-year-old daughter came home a couple of weeks later with with a letter suggesting we follow up with a Doctor of Optometry.

But, guess what? Eye exams for kids with a Doctor of Optometry are fully covered by OHIP (and most other provincial medical plans). So why have we not been doing this all along?

We saw the most wonderful Doctor of Optometry who diagnosed my daughter with an eye muscle imbalance. An eye muscle what? I’d never even heard of it! Basically, her eyes were not moving in sync, causing her to have difficulty focusing on things at close range, and I could suddenly see how it was impacting her learning.

My daughter is a bright girl and a diligent student, but learning to read is a continuing challenge for her. And now, at the very least, the puzzle pieces were starting to come together. The way she’d be able to read the first couple of pages of a storybook fairly well and then suddenly start struggling; how she’d only look at the first letter of a word and then take a guess; how she’d turn her entire body away when I asked her to just follow along with her eyes while I did the reading; and how she was able to read larger font fairly well, but not smaller  — this all made sense now that I understood that is physically difficult for her to focus on the print.

We’ve been working with our Doctor of Optometry for almost a year now, doing exercises called pencil push-ups to strengthen her eye muscles and help her overcome the imbalance. It’s an ongoing process, but I can see a definite improvement. Now that we know what the challenge is, we are able to take the right steps toward correcting it.

But think how close I was to missing this problem altogether. Even if we did end up seeing a Doctor of Optometry the very next year, we would be a year behind diagnosing the problem and a year behind working to help make reading easy for her.

The truth is that we can’t know how well our kids can see. They don’t even know! One in four school-aged children has a vision problem, but many of those are seemingly symptomless. I would never have guessed my daughter had anything wrong with her eyes. Regular check-ups by a Doctor of Optometry are vital.

Also, also, also! There’s a contest you can enter! Until November 9 you can enter the Children’s Vision Month Contest where you have the chance to win the grand prize of $2500 towards an RESP or other educational savings plan, a HP Hybrid laptop, $500 gift card to a top sporting goods store and $300 in goods and services from a Doctor of Optometry (excluding eye exams). There are also weekly prizes to be given away. Good luck!

This post has been brought to you by Doctors of Optometry, but the images and opinions are my own. For more information, please visit http://www.doctorsofoptometry.ca.

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Spending lots of money on back-to-school tech for your kids? Of course you want to hover.

This is the second in a three-part series about helicopter parenting and back-to-school tech shopping that I’m writing as Best Buy Canada‘s parenting spokesperson. What does helicopter parenting have to do with back-to-school shopping anyway?

#permissiontohover

I think the truth is that we’re all a little helicopter. Even the most laid-back parents among us have something we like to have control over. For some of us, it’s food. Run all around the neighbourhood, but you WILL eat those vegetables. Safety is a huge one, of course. Families who have a cottage on a lake will have strict water safety rules you don’t want to mess with.

For me, the two areas I need to hover over are city traffic and technology. I will be crossing busy streets with my kids until they hit double digits and there’s no promise I’ll stop then. Drivers be crazy!

And, of course, technology is just a huge area of worry and confusion for most parents. We’re totally scared of it.

For one, the tech world won’t stay still. Tablets were getting smaller and then phones started getting bigger and laptops got lighter and you can still buy an e-reader just for books. How many gigahertzes do we need? What’s a Pentium? And why are we keeping things in clouds?

Of course, your kid isn’t intimidated by any of that tech jargon, is he? Most kids are more than happy to tell you exactly what they think they need. And just like anything they claim to really need, chances are pretty good it’s actually just something they want. Sure, you need new running shoes. But no, they don’t actually need to be Nike Air Max.

But unlike shoes or, say, a winter coat, it’s harder for parents to put they’re foot down and say this is all you actually need. Because we don’t really know, do we? And if our children need this technology to set them up for success at school, we don’t want to mess with that. So what happens is we often wind up listening to the kids and simply getting them whatever they say they need.

Listening to our children is a good thing. Dropping untold hundreds of dollars on a piece of technology without finding out for yourself whether it was really the best choice for your child and your family is not so good. And that is why Best Buy wants to give parents permission to hover right now.

When you go into Best Buy to shop for a new laptop, tablet, printer, phone case, fitness tracker, video camera or whatever it is you need, the staff are there to help you make sure you make the smart choice. You shouldn’t completely disregard what your child thinks she needs — she may be right — but you should probably talk to someone who is actually an expert on all the different makes and models that are available. (At Best Buy they carry all the different brands and don’t work on commission, so you really are getting impartial advice.)

Because it’s not just about deciding between a laptop and a tablet. (Which is totally hard enough, by the way! Do we really need to have both? Why do we have to choose between portability and functionality?) As our kids get older, their interests are going to be supported by different kinds of technology than some of their friends have. Is your kid into graphic design? Programming? Documentary film making? High-performance athletics? Or maybe you really just need a solid machine for the home for internet research and word processing and that is all for this year, thankyouverymuch. Whatever the case, front line staff will have the expertise to recommend the best product for your money.

Best Buy also has the Geek Squad, a team of specialized tech experts, who you can hire for any trouble shooting from set up to viruses down the lane. Seriously, you might even want to bring last year’s sluggish laptop to the Geek Squad counter to find out if they get it working better before deciding to buy a new one. It’s not always about buying a brand new product.

When it comes down to it, we are talking about spending significant amounts of money on our children’s education. Of course parents want to hover. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Big thanks again to Best Buy Canada for bringing me on board. Last week I gushed about my experience in an actual helicopter over Toronto. Next week I’ll be highlighting my favourite tech picks for this back-to-school season.

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I’m never guessing my bra size again. My new bra is heaven except better.

Super big thanks to Wacoal for sponsoring this post and finally getting me a bra that fits right.

I rode the escalator up to the fourth floor lingerie department at Hudson’s Bay and was awash in memories. The last time I’d gone to a large department store for a bra was when my mother took me downtown to Simpsons (which is actually now The Bay) to get fitted for my very first bra. My 12-year-old self died of embarrassment in the quiet elegance of those fitting rooms as an efficient saleslady ran a measuring tape around my chest, and was then resurrected in a white, cotton A-cup training bra that I could proudly flaunt in the girls changing room.

There for a bra fitting once again, as a 36-year-old mother of three, I certainly knew how important a proper bra fit is. I’d seen headline after headline warning that most women are wearing the wrong bra size. I’ve had friends get fitted and find out they’d been wearing bras two sizes or more too small. I knew it was true.

I'm never guessing my bra size again. My new bra is heaven except better.

First bra, first win.
I wonder if I can take Maggie bathing suit shopping with me.

And yet there I was, going in for my second-ever fitting, 24 years after my first. It’s probably because I was young enough, with small enough breasts, before I had kids that a supportive bra was never an issue.  I could grab something off the rack and as long as it kind of fit, it was fine. Then I got pregnant and was busting out of my 32B cups by the end of my first trimester. My the time my milk was fully in, I was more-than-filling a 36DD nursing bra. I had bright red stretch marks on both breasts, spreading out from my nipples like angry rays of sunshine. Then, slowly, as those first, milk-full weeks passed, and then as my baby ate more and more solids and nursed less frequently, and then finally weaned, my breasts got smaller and smaller. As did the rest of me, to be honest.

I repeated that cycle three times in about seven years, my breasts like tired old water balloons. I didn’t want to get fitted at a boutique store and spend good money on a bra that might only fit for a couple months. And even after I weaned my last baby *ahem* two years ago, I didn’t want to know my real bra size because I was about to drop a quick 20 pounds ANY MINUTE NOW. It would simply be irresponsible to lay out real money for a bra when I was clearly about to lose all that weight just as soon as I could find the time to workout, probably tomorrow. So I made do by guesstimating at my bra size and pulling crappy, ill-fitting bras off the rack. That was about to change.

Maggie Hess won me over right away. Warmth, enthusiasm, and expertise radiated from her petite, five-foot frame. She’s a Wacoal consultant who works out of several Hudson’s Bay locations in the GTA, fitting women for the perfect bra and winning over a host of loyal clients. She had me take off my shirt and then measured me around the outside of my bra. I’m not surprised she used to be a dressmaker; she’s so deft with that measuring tape. I told her I was looking for an everyday bra, something in a nude, probably. (But of course “nude” is only nude for a very limited range of skin tones. So Wacoal calls that colour “sand.”)

Maggie returned with what she called her trial bra. If I tried on that style, she would be able to see right away what size I needed. Sure enough, Maggie took one look at me and said, this is too big. She came back with her arms laden with all kinds of bras in 32D. (It looks like even though I’ve lost most of the baby weight, the boobs are here to stay.)  They fit like heaven. One seamless white t-shirt bra in particular felt like I wasn’t even wearing a bra. “Oh, this makes me feel ten years younger,” I said. Maggie laughed. “You are young!” I told you I liked her.

There were no shortage of Wacoal bras that fit me beautifully, but what about the rest of you guys? Maggie says they carry lines that start as small as a 30 bandwidth and lines that go up to a 40H or 42DDD. They even have minimizer styles that help compress a larger bust so, yes, you can just wear a button-up shirt with out flashing half the office, thankyouverymuch.

Wacoal does not carry maternity bras, so nursing moms should wait until they’re back in standard bras. But I started thinking back to that first fitting with my mom at Simpsons and how I would love to take my girls to Maggie for their first fitting. I ask Maggie if she gets girls and what kind of products Wacoal offers for them.

'm never guessing my bra size again. My new bra is heaven except better.

 Some of the softest, little wireless styles. Those first three would be perfect for a tween girl.

Maggie came back with an armful of soft, wireless bralets. Some with the clasp in the back, just like a grown-up bra, and others with a more sporty look, depending on what kind of girl you have. “It’s so important to get a proper fitting from a young age,” Maggie says. “I’ve seen girls who might be slight, but already have developed large breasts and what they are wearing is giving them no support.”

I learned that all the support comes from the band. If your band is too loose, you will feel strain on shoulders. You should not be able to fit more than two fingers under the back of your bra band. Just like you wouldn’t dream of buying a pair of shoes without trying them on, you should always try on bras. Not all makes are sized the same. I tried one Wacoal bra, for example, that was designed for a younger woman and needed to move up to a 34C even though I fit a 32D for most of the other Wacoal bras I tried. And nothing is permanent. As we age, gain or loose weight, have babies, and otherwise go through different life stages, our bra size can change. It’s good practice to get fit once a year, just to be sure.

So what did I wind up walking out with? Not the seamless t-shirt bra I came in for. Somehow, Maggie knew that this was what I really wanted after all.

'm never guessing my bra size again. My new bra is heaven except better.

Now, that’s not my grandmother’s bra.

This post was generously sponsored by Wacoal. If you live in the GTA, you can make an appointment to see Maggie by contacting you local Hudson’s Bay. Wacoal is sold exclusively at Hudson’s Bay in Canada and on thebay.com.