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Eleven Months Old

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Mary is eleven months old now. My baby is eleven months old and it suddenly hits me that I’m running out of babies altogether. It feels kind of like my own 24th birthday. Or like my 29th and my upcoming 34th. The milestone before the big one carries all the weight of lost youth and missed opportunities. The new age bracket hovers menacingly on the horizon, daring me to grow up enough in time to meet it. And then I turn 25, 30 or 35 and I’m over it. The actual milestone is rather anti-climatic, allowing me to celebrate like it’s any other birthday.

I went to New York for four measly days and Mary seemed like a whole other baby when I got back. Maybe I had some dated memory of her, I don’t know. But I came back to a giant-sized baby who likes to point at everything, asking, “Dat? Dat? Dat?” I returned to a baby who will hide behind a chair or her own hands to play peek-a-boo. She eats almost everything, transitions happily between bottle and breast, mom and dad, or nice-enough looking strangers. And she loves nothing more than to hug and kiss her big sister’s baby dolls, even though she is supposed to be a baby herself.

Colum was walking clear across rooms by eleven months, Irene not long after. But Mary is the only one who can speed crawl across the main floor of a house at the first sign of an open door, desperate for some water play in the toilet. She can also climb an entire flight of stairs in the blink of an eye and get on and off a low-slung sofa in our living room. She has just started to show some passing interest in walking around holding onto your hands. Third babies know if they want to get places, they’d better learn to do it on their own. And then this morning, standing up at the fridge, she let go to better manipulate some letter magnets and remained standing all by herself for several beats.

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She’s into cards. Playing cards, sports cards, Pokemon cards, you name it, just as long as they are precious and dear to her big brother.

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She has a keen interest in audio/video technology.

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She digs bikes.

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It only took me several hundred attempts over the course of a few months to get a decent shot of her on the swings. Be proud for me.

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“What do you mean I’m going to have to start wearing pants?”

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Perseverance is her middle name. Well, it’s not really. It’s actually Elizabeth. You just never know these days.

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I had to get Mary her own cell phone. But there’s no way I’m signing up for unlimited data. Kids.

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She’s becoming one of them.

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Happy month before your first birthday, Mary. All of your firsts are my lasts, but I’ll try not to weep too loudly.

 

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A History of Movement

The kids were  so excited to have a baby sister. Ed took them out to buy her one small infant toy each. “Mommy, can I teach her to walk?” Irene wanted to know. And speech lessons began immediately: “Colum. Cawllll-UM. Colum.” But she mostly just lay there asleep.

Finally, after what must have seemed a yawning eternity, she smiled. Eventually she was actually able to reach for those little baby toys. And somehow, through a series of slow and gradual development, she has now become one of them.

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From, “Oh my gawd, woman, why do you keep laying me down on my tummy?! I can’t see shit from down here.”

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To rolling over all on her own … if only to end up stuck on her tummy, “Why don’t I ever learn. I STILL can’t see shit from here.”

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“Now you’re talking, Mom. It took you long enough to get me some sweet Bumbo action.”

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“Do you think if I just keep kicking my legs like this I might eventually get somewhere? Because those crayons and army guys aren’t going to eat themselves, you know?”

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“Oh hi. Me? Just sitting here, playing it cool. Yeah, that’s right, just sitting up all on my own. Why aren’t you freaking out yet? How awesome am I?!”

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“Alright, off the carpet. Now I’m going places! Aw shit. I’m going backwards, aren’t I?”

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“It’s cool. I totally meant to do this.”

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“Okay, wise guy, I get it. Very funny. Want to put down the camera and help a sister out?”

“Listen, I could totally get down and backwards crawl all around this park if I wanted to. I just don’t want to is all. Don’t think it’s because I don’t know how.”

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“See, I told you I could do it. And check it out, I’m not even going backwards. Not forwards exactly either, but definitely not backwards!”

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And then suddenly, last week, she figured it out. After weeks and weeks of backward crawling and a few days of rocking back and forth on her knees, she finally got the hang of it. She crawls! (Better than either of her sibs ever did, in fact.)

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There she goes again!

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Man, is it ever hard to photograph a crawling baby. Let’s try a video instead.

Er … disregard the last ten seconds in which I can’t figure out how to stop recording.

And life shall never be the same. Again.

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Does Crawling Matter?

Learning to crawl. I love this. L’il I flips over onto her front just as soon as she hits the ground. She lifts her head up high and reaches out toward a toy or some piece of junk that Young C’s hauled out of who-knows-where and left on the ground. She reaches and squirms and wriggles herself just a little bit closer. She starts screeching with frustration before long, I know, but her stamina is improving.

Young C never did this. He rarely rolled over and hardly played on his front at all. I do remember him sliding backward quite a distance over ceramic tiles once or twice, but he never did get the hang of moving forward on all fours. He was always focused on lifting his head up while on his back and trying to do little baby sit-ups. (Until he finally succeeded in rolling from his first sit-up into a somersault off the bed. But that’s another story.) He would insist on being pulled into a sitting position and did eventually develop a half-crawl, half-walk scoot move that would propel him a couple of feet toward a stray toy.

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Bye Bye Baby

Colum turned 18 months yesterday and, it’s official, I no longer have a baby. Looking at him today, I can clearly see that any residual baby-ness is just that — residue. His ultra-fine wispy hair will need a cut soon enough. His chubby cheeks are going the way of those chunky knee folds and elbow dimples. The occasional AM breastfeed is on it’s way out, and diapers have given way to training pants.

There’s not much chance for reminiscing when you’re chasing a toddler all over the place, though. And the present is so brimming with delight, I’m happy to have come this far. When you have a baby time slows way, way down. But those endless days (and nights) filled with feeding and burping and rocking and feeding… eventually speed up. By the time we hit the one year mark, we were pretty much in sync with the rest of the world. I’m glad, then, to spend so much of this fleeting time with Colum. He takes living in the moment to whole new levels. We spent all of breakfast this morning talking about Kindertots at the local community centre. We remembered they have cars there and a boy and kids and slides. We were excited to be going there as we got on our shoes and coat. Fast forward 5 minutes: I’m pushing Colum down the street in a stroller and ask, “Where are we going?” “A walk!” he answers. And I smile. That’s right. We’re going for a walk — he never lets me miss out on the journey and I love him for it.

But speaking of Kindertots, our community centres need funding! I paid $50 for 9 weeks of a program that consists of letting kids romp around a gym with lots of great toys and an optional craft table. The Parks and Rec guide said there’d be a snack, but there’s not. The session lasts for 1 1/2 hours including the really sad circle time at the end that we can never sit through. I waffle between being bitter for having paid way too much for a lot of nothing and being glad that we’re there because Colum really does have fun. The thing is that programs like this are truly valuable. I like the huge chunk of unstructured playtime. I like the well-meaning Parks and Rec lady (who I swear has been working at every community centre I’ve ever been to and doesn’t ever age). I like that it’s not really a big deal, but it should be priced accordingly. Community centres should be good, affordable resources and a point of pride for any civilized society. The City of Toronto just passed a new Land Transfer Tax that should help keep the current level of service stay afloat, but we need to infuse more money and more life into these Parks and Rec programs. Because if I can’t afford the programs at the community centre something is seriously wrong.